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Navigating Life’s Losses: When Everything Changes and You No Longer Know Who You Are

Not all grief comes from death.
 Sometimes, the deepest losses are the ones that happen quietly—when a relationship ends, when your business collapses, when your health fails you, or when life simply doesn’t turn out the way you thought it would.

I’ve lived this.

There was a point in my life when I lost my relationship, my home, and my career—all at once. I went from building what looked like a “successful” life to standing in the middle of it all crumbling around me. It wasn’t just loss. It was a complete identity unraveling.

I no longer knew who I was, or what my future looked like. And the hardest part? The world keeps spinning while you’re silently breaking.

But here’s the truth I eventually uncovered:
 When everything falls away, you’re left with something incredibly powerful—a blank canvas. And that can be the start of something extraordinary.

At OMH Therapies, we create space for all forms of loss—especially the ones that don’t always get acknowledged. This post is for anyone who feels like they’ve lost more than they know how to name.

What Counts as “Loss”?

Loss isn’t always visible. It doesn’t always come with flowers or rituals. But it changes you.

You might be grieving:

  • The end of a relationship or marriage

  • Losing a business, job, or financial security

  • A shift in your health, body, or energy

  • A lifestyle or version of yourself you once knew

  • The life path you thought you’d be living by now

And perhaps the most painful part—you feel like a stranger to yourself.

Fact: Research shows that major life transitions—divorce, job loss, illness, or relocation—can cause emotional symptoms that mirror bereavement. But because they’re not always recognised as “grief,” people often suffer in silence.

What to Do When You Feel Lost

There is no quick fix. But there are ways to move through loss with gentleness, clarity, and—eventually—renewal.

1. Acknowledge What You’re Grieving

It’s okay to grieve the version of you that didn’t make it. The plans that didn’t unfold. The life that slipped away. You don’t have to justify it to anyone. You just have to name it. And feel it.

Fact: Naming your emotions—especially around identity loss—helps your brain regulate and release stress, according to studies in affect labeling and emotional regulation.

2. Write to Remember—and to Release

Journaling was one of the things that got me through. Not structured, not polished. Just messy, honest pages of everything I was feeling. It helped me find pieces of myself again. Try prompts like:

  • “Who was I before this?”

  • “What did I lose that others can’t see?”

  • “What might this space be making room for?”

Fact: Expressive writing reduces emotional overwhelm, and helps reframe trauma as growth over time.

3. Move Your Body—and Let It Speak

Loss doesn’t just live in your mind—it lives in your muscles, your nervous system, your breath. That’s why movement is medicine.

At OMH Therapies, we offer:

  • Yoga, Pilates & Mindful Movement – to gently release stored emotion and reconnect with your body.

  • Massage with Talk Therapy – a unique and deeply healing service that allows you to mentally process while physically letting go. This dual approach supports emotional release on every level—body and mind.

Fact: Body-based therapies paired with verbal processing have been shown to regulate the nervous system more effectively than talk therapy or physical therapy alone.

4. Don’t Rush the Rebuild

It can be tempting to fill the void quickly. To start something new just to feel stable again. But lasting healing happens in the pause. Allow yourself the space to not know. It’s sacred ground. Eventually, clarity returns.

Fact: Growth after major life change increases significantly when people allow time for reflection, rather than rushing into the next phase (Post-Traumatic Growth research).

5. Reimagine Who You Want to Become

One day, you’ll feel ready to rebuild—not as who you were, but as who you’ve become. You get to dream again from a place of truth. You get to decide what matters now. Start with small acts of alignment:

  • Say yes to what feels nourishing

  • Return to rituals that calm you

Make new choices from who you are now—not who you were then

This Isn’t the End of You. It’s the Beginning of Something Honest.

Loss will change you. But it doesn’t have to destroy you.
 If you’re standing in the ruins right now, I want you to know—you are not broken. You are becoming.

At OMH Therapies, we’re here for this exact season of life. When the world feels shaky, and you’re not sure who you are anymore—we offer space, support, and healing to help you reconnect with yourself again.

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With care and courage,
Ayesha Sodha (The Power Whisperer)